How to be a Great Mom

A great mom loves her kids unconditionally. She takes care of the family’s needs – physical, emotional and spiritual – without forgetting to spend time with them. She performs a lot of self-sacrificing duties just to prove her love and loyalty to her family.

But, are these the only ways by which you can be a great mom? I don’t think so. Here’s a short list of other things you can do to become a great mom.

Have some me time. Leave your children with their fathers to enjoy some adult interaction with your friends or to relax in the spa. Doing everything to the point of exhaustion will do you and your family no good.

Never aim to be perfect. Striving for perfection will kill you.  Life’s full of surprises and we weren’t created to be perfect no matter how hard we try. Just do your best in everything you do and you will soon receive rewards for your best efforts.

Be Patient. Raising kids is hard work. You will lose your patience once in a while. That’s a given. But you must try to be patient for the benefit of your family. Choose your battles so that you don’t have to have your patience tested most of the time.

Listen to your children. Never assume that we know more than our kids do. Sometimes, it’s the other way around so we must truly listen to what our kids want to share. Also, listening actively to your children makes them feel valued.

Be their mom and not a friend to your kids. It’s good to have an open relationship with your children but be keen to set limits. Listen to your children and respect their opinion but reinstate the fact that you’re their mother – their parent  and so you deserve their loyalty and disobedience. om

Advertisements

The Best Ways to Handle Horses with Different Personality Types

Horses, like humans, have distinctive personalities. Some horses are bold while others are timid, which can be a challenge, specifically if you need to overcome any extremes in their psychological makeup.

The keys to having a good relationship with your horse are mutual respect and trust. Both of which can be achieved by establishing rapport with each other. How do you build rapport? By getting to know your horse’s unique personality through doing a variety of activities together, this will ensure you build a solid bond with him. If you don’t take the time to get to know your horse, all your other efforts will be in vain. Read this detailed infographic from Horseland and discover your horse’s true character.

horse-personality-final

Here are some insights on the proper handling of horses with different personalities.

The Eager Beaver – You will seldom go wrong with this type of horse because he will pay attention to your commands and perform well. While it is easy to handle this type of horse, you should still be considerate and sensitive when riding him. This consideration will keep your horse energetic and dependable all the time.

The Sensitive Horse -Support and encouragement are essential to this type of horse. While a sensitive horse is obedient, he won’t be if he’s insecure or scared. Hence, you need to be the person he can have confidence in. Never intimidate a sensitive horse with aggressive action or forceful reprimands. Intimidation will cause him not to trust you.

The Nervous Nellie – This type of horse usually dislikes physical contact or touch, so you need to be extremely alert and patient when working with him. For example, you must gently slide a blanket or a rug on him because sudden motions can make him more anxious. Calm and consistent handling will encourage him to explore beyond his comfort zones.

The Overachiever – Oftentimes pushy because of its great desire to perform well, an overachiever needs a firm hand from its leader. Use a firm hand in guiding and overachiever horse. Guide him consistently about the rules he must follow and ensure you keep him from pushing into your space so that he knows that you’re the one in control.

The Quiet One – You can expect a quiet horse to behave well all the time; because he’s safe to ride, he’s great for beginner riders. Generally kind in nature, the one thing you must never do with this horse is test his patience by treating him badly.

Because every horse is different, you must take the time to observe and understand the personality of each of your horses. Patience is required from you but the time you take to get to know your horse will be well rewarded. The results will be easier training and handling of him because you’ll know what makes him tick.

Horses and Teenagers with Behavioral Issues

Most teenagers today are withdrawn or angry.  According to psychologists, such a behavior is caused by their negative relationships with family and friends.

Bonding with a horse can correct this behavior. Horses are honest in their encounters with people. This makes them effective emotional mirrors. As emotional mirrors, horses can help correct the negative behaviors among teenagers. Psychologists call this equine-assisted therapy.

Horses are social animals by nature. They have different moods and personalities. They also display different emotions like anger, fears, happiness, sadness, etc. Being sensitive to surrounding energies, horses respond suitably to human interaction. Because of this, horses are capable of teaching teenagers proper interaction to other people and proper relationship towards themselves.horse sense business dot com

Horses respond negatively to negative emotions, positively to positive emotions. They do not respond to intimidation or aggression. Hence, teens who want to bond with them must try positive means of communication to win their trust.  In the process, teenagers  are able to gain insights about their behavior and true emotions.  This guides them to look for more positive and productive ways to interact with horses.

Learning positive skills cause teenagers to earn self-confidence and trust. Genuine interaction with horses allow teenagers to breakout from the negative cycle of emotions. Eventually, they experience calmness and healing. They become more responsible with their actions and reactions not only with horses but also with their family and friends.

Holiday Gift Ideas for Teenagers

Believe it or not, teenagers still look forward to receiving holiday gifts from their parents. If you’re not ready with any present for them this holiday season, you might just break their hearts. Choose from the short list below which gift suggestions might suit your teenagers’ taste.

hoodieQuality hoodie – Every teenager owns one. Hoodies are worn by teenagers during all events in their lives. Consider giving your teenagers a couple of quality hoodies which don’t get distressed easily after few washes.

Tent – Teenagers love the outdoors. Equip them for adventure with a durable tent that can keep them safe and warm during chilly camping nights.

Shavers and groomers – These are helpful for teenagers who are dealing with nasty facial hair and eyebrow tramlines.

Portable wireless speakers – You’ll never know when teenagers might find speakers helpful. They can use speakers for both education and entertainment purposes. Wireless speakers can be connected to compatible devices like smartphones, tablets and laptops.

Durable selfie stick  This gadget allows teenagers to photograph and document important events in their school life in an arm’s extent. Choose expandable and flexible versions which can hold cameras and other photo snapping devices.

How to Pack Your Things for a Move Out

Moving-outClothes together with the other things you own are difficult to pack when you’re moving out. You must be prepared with the right strategies on handling them or else you might lose all your precious time which you could spend with family and friends before the big move out day.

Separate your clothes from your shoes. The dirt and bad odor of your shies can rub onto your clothes if they’re packed together. Cleaning both of them will mean extra work for you. Place each pair of shoes back to their original boxes. Don’t put them all together in one big plastic storage box.

Fold your clothes. Take them all off the hangers. Fold them and place them in a clean storage box. This will help you save space inside your car or truck.  Keep clothes made from special fabric on hangers so as not to distort their forms.

Make use of suitcases. Don’t pack your suitcases empty. Use them to pack your other belongings. You can fill the bottom of the suitcase with books or heavier items while you place clothes or other light items on top to utilize space.

Use garbage bags. Packing clothing in a plastic bag and sucking the air out can actually be very useful for moving. Garbage bags are waterproof; thus, they’re capable of keeping your clothes dry and secure under all kinds of weather.

Quick Tips for Growing a Flower Garden This Summer

Any ordinary garden can be turned into a colorful showcase simply by adding summer flowers. You don’t have to be an experienced gardener to grow these blooming plants in your backyard. You just need to understand how to best make flowers blossom during summer. Here are some basics steps to start a flower garden.

1) Clear the ground and improve the quality of soil in your backyard. Remove the grass covering your planting area. For quick results, dig the soil to loosen it. Then cover the soil with organic matter to improve its quality. You can use decayed leaves, dry grass clippings or animal manure.

2) Check the amount of sunlight your garden receives. Building a flower garden requires a lot of energy from the sun. Most summer flowers need about 6 to 8 hours of sunlight everyday to stay healthy. You can use a sunlight calculator to check the average amount of sunlight in your garden.

3) Pick the right flowering plants. Read gardening catalogues and books or research flowering plants online to find the plants that are adapted to summer and to your location. Check out this infographic from Enchanted Landscapes to discover which flowers and shrubs are best to grow during summer.

summer-flowers-and-shrubs-final

 

4) Make sure that you have enough water supply. Flower seedlings should never dry out. They need constant watering until their roots are established. Flowers wilt easily during summer; therefore, you must have a large enough water supply. You can do this by keeping a water container in your garden. Water your flowers early in the morning because water evaporates easily in the heat of the sun.

5) Consider creating a landscape design. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a garden where you can sit comfortably, admiring the beauty of your flowers? You can achieve a beautiful floral colour scheme in your garden with a great landscape design. Your design can also incorporate furniture and other garden accessories which will encourage your family to enjoy outdoor games and activities. Consult a landscape professional if your budget allows it.

Creating a wonderful flower garden this summer requires a lot of diligence and patience. Water your flowers when needed. Pull the weeds. Apply appropriate amounts of fertilizer. Doing all these consistently will reward you with most admired garden in the neighborhood.

Positive Things to Say to Yourself Daily

self-talkParenting is exhausting. If you don’t get the support you need from your partner and loved ones, parenting can cause you to lose a healthy self-image. The good news is you can overcome exhaustion from parenting by talking to yourself positive thoughts. Here is a short list of encouraging phrases that

I am enough. This statement allows you to make peace with your limitations. By accepting who you are, you will find it easier to utilize your strengths for utmost productivity.

Make it happen. Your dreams will remain dreams if you don’t make them happen. Remember that no one else will help you but yourself. If you want something completed today, make it happen.

Stay focused.  Distractions are inevitable.  They will keep your eyes from being focused on your goals. Stay positive. Keep your chin up and your feet on the ground. If you happen to stumble along the way, pick yourself up and keep moving towards the finish line.

Trust yourself. Base your decisions and plans to success according to what will work for you. Although you can learn a lot from the success stories of other people, you must not pattern every bit of your plan after theirs because you’re a totally different person from them.

Failure is stepping stone and not the end of everything. Don’t allow failure to break your spirit. Learn from it and use it as a means to success.  Be mindful of what caused your failure so that you can avoid it next time.